The Narcissist and the Art of Projection

The Narcissist and the Art of Projection

  In my early undergraduate days, I took psychology 101 and learned about projection as a defense mechanism.  At the time it was merely a definition I had to memorize for a test on psychoanalytic theory.   Projection A form of defense in which unwanted feelings are displaced onto another person, where they then appear

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Enforcing Your Divorce Judgment

Enforcing Your Divorce Judgment

You have survived the separation and the divorce. You have either come up with a settlement agreement together or have had a judge determine what your divorce order looks like.  Finally, you think, you can move forward and make plans based on what has been written. Not so fast.  The judgment is one thing but enforcing it

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Child Custody in Maryland

Child Custody in Maryland

Child Custody in Maryland   These are the factors that the court often considers when determining custody. They look at all of these factors through the lens of “what is in the best interest of the child”.   fitness of parents character and reputation of parties the desire of parents and agreements between parties the

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What I wish I knew before I filed for divorce

What I wish I knew before I filed for divorce

I wish when I was first facing the prospect of divorce, I had someone I could talk to who would help me process what I was feeling and tell me what I was supposed to do next. Someone who was not charging me by the minute and who understood how it felt to have your

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Top 5 Reasons for Hiring a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst

Top 5 Reasons for Hiring a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst

Top 5 Reasons for Hiring a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst® (CDFA) During the Divorce Process 1. Save Time Divorces can take a year or two to complete.  One of the most time-consuming pieces is gathering and organizing financial documents and trying to make sense of how they will be divided in a fair and equitable manner. 

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New Tax Law Changes for Alimony

New Tax Law Changes for Alimony

New Tax Law Changes for Alimony If you are in the process of divorce right now or are considering divorce, you may have heard that the way Alimony is treated for tax purposes is changing. THE CURRENT LAW The way things work right now is that the person who pays alimony to an ex-spouse can

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Should You Hire an Attorney Immediately?

Should You Hire an Attorney Immediately?

Facebook is a great resource for friendly support.  There are groups of all kinds made up of like-minded members or of members facing similar situations.  Overall, I think they are positive, especially the well moderated groups, and provide a forum to vent frustrations, seek advice and share stories. I am a member myself of a handful of

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5 Things to do when considering divorce

5 Things to do when considering divorce

5 Steps to Take as You Prepare for Divorce   Consult with a Divorce Coach or Professional The prospect of divorce is overwhelming, and the process is confusing, especially when it is not something you have a frame of reference for and is not something you expected to ever encounter.  A Divorce Coach is able

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